Depending on the severity of a break up in a relationship, some people are able to bounce back and start dating almost immediately. This could be due to a lot of factors one being fear of being alone. For some other people, it may take a while to adjust to that routine again. Basically, it all depends on you and how quickly you can move on with your life. Some people need time to process and reflect while others may not. Whatever the case, there are ways to be back in the dating game after a break up. Here are some ways below
How to Start Dating again After a Breakup
DO NOT BEAT YOURSELF UP
If you have under gone a break up, it’s not the end of the world. You’ll definitely feel bad but do not be too hard on yourself. You are allowed to feel bad, let out your emotions, take as much time as you need and be ready to move on.
OPEN YOUR MIND AND LET GO
In order to successfully be in another relationship, you need to totally let go of all you went through in your previous relationship. If you do not, you will keep hanging on to the past thereby missing out on the joys of a new relationship.
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TAKE THINGS SLOWLY
Remember what it felt like when you had that break up. I am sure you felt like your heart was ripped out of you. You now have another chance to date so keep it at a low pace and jealousy guide your heart, take your time to know the person. Do not quickly fall in love
BE READY TO MINGLE AND HAVE FUN
Once your sorrowing phase is over, be prepared to mix with people because there’s no way you can be in a relationship if you do not mix with other people. Hangout and have fun, open yourself to the happiness of life.
One thing people do is to use their previous relationship as a basis for a new one. One mistake to make is trying to compare a former lover with a new one. This should not be so because everyone is different and the experiences would certainly be different. What you might have gone through may affect your reasoning at times so be mindful of this.
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DO NOT BE TOO JUDGMENTAL
Be optimistic and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. Do not judge anyone who shows interest in you though you should be careful but have an open mind so you do not mistakenly chase away a suitable candidate.
Every relationship should teach you a moral. After a break up, there are things you must have learnt so you do not make the same mistakes again. Be ready to be a better you so by the time you engage in another one, you would have been wiser.
DO NOT DWELL TOO MUCH ON YOUR PAST
If you’re on the verge of starting a new relationship, don’t give out too much information on your past experiences because your partner might be put off or use that information to negatively judge you. Some people feel letting it all out means they are being truthful; the truth sometimes hurt.
As Zig Ziglar says “it’s not how far you fall, but how high you bounce that counts.’’
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